First- Disclaimers. I did not vote for Trump. I do not particularly like
Donald Trump. I tend to be moderate in my political views but definitely lean
more conservatively.
This was not written to persuade anyone toward a certain
political view, but my hope is that everyone can stop and try to understand the
other side. It doesn’t mean you have to like what’s going on, but hopefully if
you understand a little better, it will make it a little easier to be kind.
For those of you who
don’t understand how Donald Trump could possibly win this election:
Don’t worry- I’m not here to attack you. Farther down, I try
to explain and understand the other side as well.
I have thought of many reasons why people have voted for
Trump. Some I can understand, and some I cannot- but I have accepted them as legitimate
reasons.
First, please understand that many MANY Republicans were in
shock when Trump took the Republican nomination. That’s when they were
appalled. They had several months beyond that to come to terms with this and
figure out what they were going to do.
There are many who came to the decision to support Trump very
easily; they were already supporters, liked his policy, liked his willingness
to speak his mind, and liked the fact that he’s not a politician. I personally,
have a hard time understanding this, but I’ve accepted that this is one
category of supporters.
Next. There were many people who thought the choice came
down to (in their minds) political corruption vs a disgusting, pigheaded,
bully. Maybe you also had the same choice in your mind and preferred to choose
political corruption. Others chose the bully. (Again. In their minds- not my
thought process).
For some people, and these are the ones that I think are
being hurt the most by the harsh words said against “Trump supporters,” this
was really, truly, an agonizing process. They looked at the issues. Maybe they
were so passionate about a need to fight abortion that they just had to place
that issue as the top priority. Gun rights, immigration, etc. Not because they
are “racist” or because they want to take away a woman’s right to choose, but
because these are issues that they hold close to their heart. Issues that are
so important to them, that they were willing to look past the flaws of the
candidate in order to have a republican appoint the next Supreme Court
justices. Yes, you can disagree with their political stances on these issues,
but please, do not scream hatred and intolerance at them. Besides, isn’t that
what you claim many of them are? Hateful and intolerant? Which leads me to my
next point:
People don’t like being called racist, sexist, intolerant, or
bigoted. Especially when it’s not true of them. By using these words, many
people have been pushed farther and farther from open-mindedness, and more and
more into their own beliefs. “Oh you think I’m racist for believing that people
should come to this country legally? Well I’m not going to change my mind. All that
does is make me angry.” Yes there are many, many people who voted for Trump who
are hateful. Who are sexist, racist, intolerant, and bigoted. It’s unfortunate,
but they existed long before Trump. And many people, like I said, voted for
Trump, knowing his flaws, HATING his flaws, but had to prioritize something
else over these feelings. You may not understand how they could possibly prioritize anything above that, but that’s
the beauty of our agency: your beliefs do not exist to trump someone else’s
beliefs (no pun intended). They exist for you to defend, not to attack.
Are there more reasons people voted for Trump? Probably. But
these are the ones I thought were most important to highlight.
Remember. When you say hateful things about Trump
supporters, you aren’t just saying them to the intolerant, racist, sexist, and
bigoted people, you are saying them to the people who spent months coming to the decision to defend
their own beliefs and stances on the issues even
though it meant voting for Trump.
For those of you who
think people who feel fear, sadness, or mourning are silly and immature:
First. Please stop. Invalidating people’s feelings is the
root of so many problems. Depression is perpetuated by people discrediting the
sadness of others. It drives people to feel that they don’t have a reason or
right to feel. And that needs to stop.
Next. The fear is real, and the reasons to fear are real. While
many of the reports in “Day 1 in Trump’s America” (https://twitter.com/i/moments/796417517157830656)
may be exaggerated, I can guarantee you that many are not. There are horrible,
horrible people in this country. This may not be you. In fact, I sincerely hope
that it’s not you. But the hate directed toward minorities exist. The hate
directed toward white males exists. Hate exists, and is real. Yes, this hate
existed long before Trump existed and was elected. And yes, I do believe this
pushed this hate over the edge and suddenly gave people the extra umph they needed. It’s sad and it’s
disgusting. Horrible.
Is it fair to say, however, that Trump supporters are the
only ones? Definitely not. But please don’t pretend it doesn’t exist. There are
people all over the nation who acted out when Trump was elected. They showed
their hatred, and in fact, were proud of their hatred. It’s horrible that these
people have been made to represent all Trump supporters, but it exists.
Fear of these people is real and valid. Fear for the
minorities is real and valid. Sadness that horrible people exist is real and
valid. And mourning for what could be coming is real and valid.
For everyone:
How do you talk to your children
about this? Simple. Well- not simple. Be clear about what behavior you believe
to be acceptable. Raise your children the way you want them to be raised.
Personally, I hope that you decide to raise them with love and tolerance. Teach
to understand that people can make their own choices, and they do not have to
be the same as your own choices. Teach them that there is hate in the world,
but that love is stronger. Teach them that different is beautiful, to the
extent that people accept differences. Don’t give up and teach your children
that in order to be successful they can be bullies and hateful, regardless of
what you think the nation is teaching them. You
are the parents, not the world. The most important things that children learn
should be in their homes. Will the outside world affect them? Yes. But as
someone who has worked with young children for years, believe when I say
children learn the most at home.
Just remember-
As much as you think the right to
life exists at conception, someone else thinks that a woman’s right to choose
is lost when you don’t allow her the right to an abortion.
As strongly as you feel that a
wall should be built, separating the United States and Mexico, someone else
believes that people should freely be able to enter the country to escape their
past situations.
And as passionate as you are that
Donald Trump will destroy this country, somebody else is just as passionate
that Hillary would have done the exact same thing.
And not only do these beliefs
exist, they are all valid and
individual to the person who holds them.